7years ago I met this guy I fell in love with him and we started dating

 

7years ago I met this guy I fell in love with him and we started dating

The first question I asked him was are you married he said no and also told me to go and ask his parents about it or sister to confirm
I didn't go or ask because inside of me I believe he is telling me the truth.
Now I told him my parents are not financially bouyant
To sponsor me in higher institution..
He promised to sponsor me
But he needs to go and pay my bride price first before he can do that I accepted because I love him that much.
After some some days he came for introduction and also collected list
Then I now allowed him to sleep with me because for the past 2months we dated I never allowed him to touch me because I wanted to be sure he is for real.
Then I took in for him which made him rush in doing the traditional right.
So then I asked him when we are fixing our wedding he said after I give birth.
We will wed and then I will start my schooling.
I was very happy hearing that
Now after everything I move in to their house.
That was when the father called me and show me a picture that of a lady putting on wedding gown with the father of my child wearing suit by her side
The father said he just wants to tell me because he is no longer comfortable with the lies that he might die that day or next
He told me his son is married but had an issue with the wife so the woman left...
The most surprising thing there is that I have seen that face in my dream for some time which I asked him if he promised anyone marriage and disappoint the person he said no
That's was the same face in that picture.
I was mad I cried as much as I can i blamed and hated myself for coming into another woman home.
When I asked him he said he didn't want to tell me because he knew I won't accept him again.
Now I asked him what is my faith is the lady coming back he said no that they have gone to welfare to close the case..
From that day I became uncomfortably even though he promised me that the lady will never come back again.
I managed to stay because I can't go back to my parents house with pregnancy and my parents are not staying together my mum remarried and my dad also remarried.
So I have no choice than to stay and put to bed
During my pregnancy he was building his two storey building.
After some months I started noticing that his wife is now calling him on phone..
It's seems like people have told her that her husband is building a house.
Afternoon I put to bed
I told him I want to go and stay with my mum a little...
Then I left I was there for two weeks.
Then his mother died he called me I said no need if coming to the town again let me wait till they fix the burial since my baby is just 4months
But I was visiting their village from time to time to check on his father
When it was a 2weeks to the burial
I didn't go again then that burial week I went to there lo and behold his wife is there I greeted her but she ignored me she is just a young lady like me
She might be my mate or a year older
So I managed to stay. after the burial I told him that I don't want to marry again since his wife is back I have to go and look for my own husband.
Then I left after some weeks then his wife called me and said that am free to come back that she not chasing me after all the her husband has money and 2 storey building that if I take one flat she will take one flat
I told her I can't be a second wife
That money is not everything what I need is happiness...
So she should go ahead and enjoy her home..
I called the father of my child and ask him how we are going to be taking care of the child...he told me he will never contribute any thing except if I will come back to be his second wife..
Then I told him I will never do that.
So I left
I have personal taken care of my child for good 7years without his help...
When I called him to come take what he did on my head he refused.to come.
Now he is threatening to come and take his daughter.
Then I told him I don't have problem if he insists on taking her but we have to fix a day when he will come and take what he did on my head and after which he can take his daughter along but we will reach agreement on how I will be seeing her.
He said he will never do that.
He said I must bring his daughter first before he will come for the.
Now my fear is after taking this girl what if he refused to come and take his money.
And in my village as long as the first money has not been taken.
Another man is not permitted to pay your dowry.
What if he refused to come that means I will remain single all my life.
For good 7years I have lived without having fun because someone money is my head.
Please your matured advise is needed
This man is very heartless.
Am in pains.
I don't even know how to release a child I have suffered with for good seven years to him,I have hawk pure water, fruit,fry akara and other things just make sure I take care of her needs...
It's really painful..what do I do?